Another sad story came out of my region the other day. An Indian girl died when her mother left her and her sister alone in a car parked in a vacant lot without water for what must have been a very long time (it isn?t very hot here this time of year). Even at 18 months, it would probably take pretty much all day for a girl to die of dehydration/heatstroke in a car in weather in the low 60s. It?s really terrible to think of the child suffering for all that time.
An 18-month-old girl has died after being found inside a car with her 2-year-old sister on the Tulalip Indian Reservation, and the girls? mother has been arrested.
The girls were found around 4:45 p.m. Monday in a vacant lot along Marine Drive Northeast, Marysville fire officials said.
The 18-month-old was taken to Providence Medical Center in Everett where she was later pronounced dead. She was identified by the Department of Social and Health Services as Chantel Craig.
Chantel?s sister was taken to Children?s Hospital in Seattle for treatment of dehydration but is expected to recover.
The girls? family were part of the Tulalip Tribe, said tribe chairman Mel Sheldon, but he didn?t identify the surviving girl or her mother. Sheldon said the girls? parents had separated and that the father is at Children?s with the surviving daughter.
I can?t imagine what the father must be going through now. This kind of thing is every father?s nightmare when the mother runs off with his children, and it happens more often that way than the other way around. This is probably partly because mothers consistently win custody, but mostly it?s because two parents are almost always better than one.
I?ve already demonstrated (and so have many others) that feminists have problems with math, but this is not simply about how much money one makes at a job, who is more likely to commit adultery, or college admissions; it?s about people?s lives.
I tend to think fathers and mothers are roughly equal in their propensity to be neglectful of children. It?s true that women are more likely to abuse and kill kids than biological fathers ? or anyone else for that matter ? but that?s probably a result of the overwhelming power they have over children?s lives in our society. When a situation is so unbalanced, those wielding power and control ? women ? are going to be disproportionately represented as perpetrators of child murder, abuse, neglect, etc. However, feminists? support of abortion and infanticide does give one cause for concern, and suggests that women may in fact be more likely and willing to kill children than fathers, but until it?s conclusively proven I can?t say for certain that?s the case.
However, even if fathers were 100% more likely than mothers to cause a child?s death through neglect, children would still be far safer with a father in their lives. It sounds counterintuitive, but the truth is that very few parents actually do kill their children. What this means is that even if a father is twice as likely to leave a child in the car, go shoot some heroin and then nod off all day, leaving the kid to die in the meanwhile, children are still better off with a father in their lives. This is because, even if mothers are only half as likely to do this, the overwhelming majority of fathers would still be more responsible than the women who did do it, and therefore would save the child even if the mother was a hopelessly wasted junkie. Even if both parents were junkies the kids would be safer with two parents, because it?s less likely that two junkies would pass out and forget the kids all day at the same time.
Of course, this is assuming both parents are present on a daily basis, but it extends farther than that. In cases of separation, when the father has frequent, ongoing access to his kids, he can protect them if he notices that something is wrong. Unfortunately, this is where courts utterly fail children. Not only do they refuse to enforce father custodial time as vigorously as they enforce wealth transfer to the mother, they often treat the father who demands more time with his children with undue suspicion. This is because the feminist narrative says that the only reason fathers want time with their kids is because they desire power and control. That?s right, according to feminists fathers only care about being around their kids because they want to order them around, as though children are little servants.
That?s ridiculous. Sometimes I tease my kids and say they?re going to have to make dinner for me, but both they and I know I wouldn?t let them near a hot stove yet. Just about the only thing I can get them to do at this point is put their toys away, and that?s often more work than it would be to do it myself. I have a feeling it?s going to be years before I can expect them to do anything for me ? the main job now is simply to teach them to do things for themselves.
Most parents, mothers and fathers, care about and want to protect their children. This includes most separated and divorced parents as well. Therefore, it?s in the best interests of children for both parents to be regularly involved in their lives. If one parent drops the ball, the other parent can pick up the slack. If the kids are in a truly dangerous situation with one parent, they are far better off if the other has regular access to them. And sometimes, even the less responsible parent can help them in ways the more responsible one cannot (e.g. listen to the child?s opinion and let him or her make their own, better decision).
If courts truly cared about the ?best interests of the child,? they?d take this fundamental truth to heart and impose a presumption of equal access to the kids. Unless one parent is truly screwed up ? as the mother in this case appears to have been ? kids should spend equal time with both parents. Unfortunately, mother custody trumps all in our society. The ?best interests of the child? is a tasteless joke when courts aid and abet the destruction of families.
I wonder: how do fathers like little Chantal?s feel when judges make these lofty pronouncements about children?s best interests? Probably not too happy.
I was recently reading about how Allied armies forced Axis civilians to view the horror of concentration camps at the end of WWII. Perhaps someday we can allow the victims of feminist family law to confront the people who put it into practice, so that they, too, can face their guilt. That would at least be a step in the right direction.
Source: http://www.the-spearhead.com/2012/10/10/single-motherhood-endangers-children/
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